Robin Johnson
SCC Consultant
Hello, and good to meet you. We all don’t speak of divorce details like we do other events on our lives, so let me share a bit about mine to give you a better sense of who I am.
“I don’t want to be married to you anymore.” This is what my wife of 9 years said to me back in 2020, just before the pandemic. I was shocked and in complete denial of the reality she presented to me. At that time we had built a beautiful home together and had two wonderful young kids, a baby and a toddler — and I felt like she just blew it all up.
For about a year I fought for it — trying marriage consulting, trying to date again, asking friends for advice, and having hours of deep conversations trying to… I don’t know…. fix it. All while maintaining a demanding job and putting on a smile for the kids.
I was an emotional wreck on the inside, and physically exhausted from everything else.
I felt alone – oh, so alone, with no friends I could speak with (because they wouldn’t understand).
I felt rejected and invalidated, and sought basic human connection in any way I could find it.
I felt stuck – trapped in a house where we pretended to be a family yet were grieving the loss of our marriage.
And I felt angry! Although I never blamed her, I still felt so angry that it happened.
Five years later, I still feel the sadness — I wonder if it will ever fully heal. But I can confidently say that the divorce is over and my co-parent and I have moved on in the best way we can. The kids are thriving and I’ve even found love again.
In fact, I’ve never been happier and my eyes have never been more open to the earth-shattering ramifications and complexities that come with this devastating life event. It’s all too common, yet help seems impossible to find.
That’s why I consult for Second Chapter — to use my experience, perspective, and I dare say wisdom to help others who are considering or going through a divorce.
If you’re reading this and fit that description, I’m sorry to hear it. But I promise: there is hope on the other side, and I’d love to help you find it.
